This week has been…slow. I’m still struggling with the sugar but I’ve worked out every evening which is a very big deal. When I hurt my foot before Christmas, I stopped working out so I didn’t aggravate it. I never picked it back up. BUT I’m pushing through even when, like last night, every bone in my tired body said “NO!!!! Just go home and sit in your chair and relax…you deserve it.”
I told those lying-ass thoughts that they had been evicted and would have to leave…and then I did a 40 minute workout instead of a 30 minute workout. See what happens when you piss me off.
My diet has been good too (except for the sugar…oh…and some potato chips…ugh). I’m keeping it clean, low carb with lots of vegetables. Still too many diet Pepsi’s but progress not perfection.
I mentioned I’d been reading the book Down Size by Ted Spiker. It’s really given me a new perspective on my weight and, more importantly, confirmed what I have always believed…diets don’t work and anything you do to lose weight you must be able to maintain for a lifetime (with the exception of jump starts and cleaning up your diet…more on that later). If you can’t do it forever, you’re just making yourself crazy.
From the introduction:
“It comes down to figuring out not the rules, but the truths – the principles that can guide your actions, that can steer you in the right direction, that can bail you out when things go wrong, that your brain (and not your belly) is the lead character in the dramatic performance that is weight loss.”
This is the hook that made me keep reading. That it’s a holistic approach. That I can’t undo a lifetime of truths and what’s more, I shouldn’t. Rather, I should work with my own truths to uncover the healthiest version of me. He outlines 12 truths that worked for him and that he hopes will help us find our own way to healthy.
In part one of the book, Ted talks about figuring out the reasons we are overweight in the first place. Genetics? Lifestyle? Clean your plate club? Or how fat acts as a coping mechanism against some kind of trauma, either in childhood or in adulthood. The bells and whistles started going off in my head as soon as I read that sentence. I remember that I was a sickly skinny child until about third grade when I began to put on weight…exactly when the abuse began. Believe it or not, I had never put that together with my sexual abuse…NEVER.
So I started thinking, could my weight gain as a child be related to my sexual abuse? Later, as a middle age woman, could my weight gain have been as a result of a feeling that I was failing my mother as she was dying? The time in between 22 and 40 I maintained a healthy weight and was physical fit. But before and after…
Rocked my world people. I spent a good 2-3 days just flipping that one over and over in my head until I realized, thinking about it wasn’t going to do a damn thing. I had to actually do something…so I kept reading.
Ted moves on to discuss motivation and determination and strategies but never strays from the premise that one size does not fit all and that we each must do the work to figure out what works for us AND what our bodies want to be. We’re not all a size 6 (or 00? What the what?) and, for me, I know my body will fight me every step of the way if I try to make it something it’s not nor will ever be. It’s been doing it my whole adult life.
And then, after my post the other day where I said it felt like a I had reached some kind of quiet determination this time I read this…
“It’s quieter than what we typically think of as determination.”
This book isn’t a diet book and there are no hard and fast rules about how you’re going to get skinny. But I promise you that if it doesn’t do anything else, it will definitely make you think.
It has made me think. In fact, I’m toying with the idea of another Whole30. Just to jumpstart me and detox from sugar and potato chips. I felt so great when I did the first one and I think enough time has passed for me to feel the newness again. I’ll think about it some more and let you know. I know that when I was at my best, my fittest, sugar and chips were a treat…not a way of life. I know I can maintain that lifestyle. I know I feel great in that lifestyle. I just have to find that lifestyle again.
And the treadmill should be coming about the middle of next week. Scandal here I come!
Thanks for listening.