Bye Felecia…I mean Facebook

I signed off of Facebook this week…for good.  I’ve taken breaks before only to hear the siren call of grandkids’ pictures, recipes, decorating tips and updates on old high school friends that have me running back to that little blue square on my phone.  Once I’ve clicked it I’m hooked and before I know it I’m clicking Like and commenting on cat videos.

Okay…maybe not the last one but you get the idea.

For about a year now I’ve noticed an alarming trend among my “friends” of which I’ve been turning a blind eye.  Comments and stories shared and reactions to media have become more and more vicious and ugly.  It’s not that I don’t agree with their views, because sometimes I actually do agree with their opinion, it’s the vitriol with which they choose to share it.

For example, the other day, when the FBI decided not to pursue prosecution of Hillary, my friend posted this, “Hillary is a cunt.”

Wait…you kiss your grandchildren with that mouth?

And before you all say anything I am fully aware that on this blog I am a big, fat potty mouth; but, and this is a big but, my grandchildren do not read this blog and even if they did, they would not know it was me.  And this was just a taste of what I’ve read over that last year or so.  People who I thought held an open mind about things have been gay bashing, racial profiling, unfriending each other and glorifying others and I’m left with one thought…

What.  The.  Fuck.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t like Hillary Clinton any more than I liked her misogynistic husband.  Her ambition frightens me and I’m very disappointed that when my gender finally gets a shot at the Oval, it’s her.  But I am not going to reduce my debates to Trump like name calling (I don’t like him either – I will be writing in Condoleezza Rice this fall – not even kidding about that) preferring instead to simply discuss the reason why I do not think she’ll be a good president.  You know…discuss the issues – her views on healthcare and the budget.  The fact that she used a personal server to send confidential, government correspondence.  The fact that her plans for the economy are going to tax the living hell out of me and, once again, they’ll be more pork in that legislation than in all of the Mid-West of the U.S.

Issues people.

Then my other friend, who never said a PEEP about Orlando or Philandro chooses instead to post a highly one sided article about the police shooting in Dallas and comment, “This shit has got to stop.”  Ya think?  It needs to stop for everyone!  Not just the ones with which you side.  Shootings and anger and hate and rage have got to stop for EVERYONE.  Why do people believe they can reduce an issue as complicated and divisive as what’s going on with the police and African Americans (not just males…it’s happens to women too) to a tiny little paragraph chock full of anger, resentment and ugliness?  Tell me…what in the WORLD is that going to do?  If you’re angry, no matter what your views, CALL YOUR CONGRESSMAN, MEET WITH YOUR LOCAL POLICE, MEET WITH YOUR DISTRICT ATTORNEY…DO something!  We all have opinions on these matters and Facebook CAN be a place in which to vent and/or debate but hate is hate is hate is hate no matter which app it hides behind.  It’s ugly.  It’s damaging.  It serves no purpose.

Some people have asked me to reconsider and just unfriend those who offend but for me, it’s not enough.  It’s almost gotten to the point that after I scroll through my feed (over which, thanks to Mr. Zuckerberg I no longer have any control) I feel like I need a shower.  People have every right to say whatever they want on their Facebook feed and, like the old saying goes, I’ll defend to the death their right to say it – but I don’t have to read it.  I don’t have to get my heart broken.  I don’t have to walk away from my computer even more depressed and disillusioned that I was before I sat down.

So I’m finished.  What’s scary is how much I miss it and how often I pick up my phone and look for the little blue app with the big F on it but my son, who signed off a couple of years ago, says that will go away after awhile.  I still have Instagram to get pics of the grands and I’m trying to learn Snapchat (that sentence alone makes me feel OLD) so I’ll get my fix of social media but for now I’m going old school.  I’ll use my phone for what phones should be used for…

…watching porn. 😉




9 thoughts on “Bye Felecia…I mean Facebook

  1. Well Sherry, well said, well put and so truth. I often skip over those tirades when perusing the contents of my page, occasionally I get suckered into reading them then the comments and my heart aches with the hate and bias expressed there, no compassion or love. Usually I don’t comment but a couple of times I was unable to help myself – on an abortion debate filled with anger and name calling I simply put how grateful I am never to have been in the position of having to make a decision like that. I don’t think people understand how responding angrily even in type on Facebook fuels that hate and unease in our world. Personally, I enjoy Facebook. …….mostly, some stuff I let go for it does not serve me well. Finally good to have you back.
    in love and light

  2. Gael-So good to hear from you!

    I used to enjoy Facebook too…a lot. But I just can’t do it anymore. I think you should enjoy it as long as it makes you happy.

    Thank you for commenting! I’ve missed you.


  3. I’ve blocked all political bull on Facebook and check it just once a month, the catch up on kids photos things, and as I can swear all most as well as you, I also save that for my blog. Same reasons, kids don’t see it and grands can’t read. I have been known however, to call the red headed candidate some nasty names on the blog. But I’ve decided to stay out of it all lately cause I’m so disappointed in the hate stuff. The news makes me cry. I bought a t shirt at the beach “HuMAN Kind, Be Both”. I wish we were practicing that! My old heart gets sad, we’d come so far only to go back to fear and prejudice. I think I’ll go back to my old hippie days wearing flowers in my hair, no bra (ha, no one would notice) and free love, ahhh, those were the days!

    1. I so hear you on the red head…he is such a child. The female doesn’t fair much better in my view and since I just found out that my state doesn’t allow write in candidates in a Presidential election…I’m fucked come November.

      I will never NOT vote but I don’t ever remember being this torn. Well, there’s always impeachment if it all goes to shit…oh wait…never mind.

  4. Good for you, but I will miss you and the pics of your beautiful home. Where is someone like me, the genetically deprived of the decorating gene going to get ideas now? I’ll be wasting my days on Pinterest now. Our world is so messed up these days, I wonder how much blames social media, with its platform for blasting personal hatreds across cyberspace, holds?

  5. I have never been more secure in my decision to not to join Facebook. My friends have been at me for years but I have been resolute that it is not something I want or need in my life. Recently a friend I had in Hong Kong sent a friend request to my email and I had to reply through my daughters account to say email me don’t friend request me. Even on her account which she hardly ever uses I glimpsed the vitriole that still bubbles here in the UK about Brexit. Like you Sherry I felt stuck between a rock and a hard place and voted with MY opinions on what I believed. Opinions are like assholes everyone has one but you don’t have to be an asshole and shove it down everyone’s throat, right? Not directed at you obviously. Loved this post so much and value your honesty in stating you are going to vote for the lesser of two evils. Taking a step back and opinions out of the equation, it shows how troubled and dissatisfied people are when both here and in the US the options we have are so divided and passions are so high and hatred and bitterness are the deciding factors. I am so happy you are posting again.

  6. Good for you my friend and your son is right, it gets better after a while. I signed off Facebook, Google Plus and twitter, only to go back to a month later, just promote my blog. A few weeks ago, I did finally said good bye to all of them. I feel way better by not being depressed, anxious or mad. Don’t worry my friend, you will feel great after a week or so. You’ll notice that you are no longer reaching for your phone, to check up on updates. 😉

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