Sorry I’ve been absent. I’ve not been writing or commenting but I HAVE been reading. Even if I’m crazy short on time, I make time to sit and read your blogs. I can barely go a day without checking in and seeing how you all are doing. I truly get so much insight, fun and laughter and learning from you guys. Okay – I’ll jump on the November blessing bandwagon, I am blessed to have found this community of sober bloggers. I’m not sure where I would be if I hadn’t found you. I know I’d be sober…but I don’t think I’d be as happy.
And that’s a fact.
Which brings me to this post. I went to see my psychiatrist the other day so he could perform the twice a year “laying of the hands” and write me my prescriptions. I like him…a lot. I feel like I can tell him anything and he gets it. He’s not a talking doctor but I don’t need one of those (right now anyway…who knows what the future holds); he’s exactly what I need in a pharmacologist – someone to whom I can describe, in intimate details, what’s going on in my body and in my head and he works with me to come up with a plan. Sometimes it’s a switch or a tweak in my medication. Sometimes it’s behavior modification. Sometimes it’s a trip to a therapist.
But he was unaware of this wonderful community of sober bloggers! I mentioned to him that this was part of my recovery and healing and he started asking ME questions! He’s not a “my way or the highway” kind of guy, so he’s open to all forms of therapy. Once I explained my experience, we talked about the kind of people who don’t fit society’s perception of an alcoholic (you know…99.9% of us) and how many of them are choosing more private ways of getting sober. I explained about the boards, and chat rooms and online AA meetings and, of course, the blogs.
We talked about what’s it meant in my own recovery and how much healthier I am as a sober person for having found this outlet and the wonderful friends I’ve made here. The unconditional support and lack of judgement is mind-blowing in and of itself, but when you tack on the fact that there are no rules, that you can come out here, take what you need and even be of service that’s when the miracle happens.
So I told him the next time he has a patient who is questioning whether or not they are drinking too much, he might suggest they Google it (which we all know they already have) and then click on any of the Wordpress or Blogger links.
We’ll all be here waiting and ready to reach out that hand and love them till they can love themselves again.
“In the end, though, maybe we must all give up trying to pay back the people in this world who sustain our lives. In the end, maybe it’s wiser to surrender before the miraculous scope of human generosity and to just keep saying thank you, forever and sincerely, for as long as we have voices.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman’s Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia