Restless, Irritable and Discontent

I don’t know what it is about me but I can go from perfectly fine to restless, irritable and discontent in no time at all.  Especially when coming off a weekend like I’ve just had full of lots of excitement and busyness.

Mood swings?  Maybe, I’ve been known to swing a mood or two.

Depression?  Duh – but I’m heavily medicated.

Childhood Trauma?  Double duh.

Alcoholic?  Ding, ding, ding!  Yes, we have a winner!

I used to think it was always one of the first three things that would send me into this particular place where I’ve found myself this morning, but now I’ve come to believe it’s just the whole alcoholic thing.

I mean, isn’t that what got me drinking in the first place?  And if we’re not careful, isn’t that what can drive us all back to drinking?  That feeling of being bored and wanting to make myself feel better.  That almost adolescent desire to just throw caution to the wind and do something crazy just so I can fool myself into thinking I’m something I’m not or to feel something I don’t?  That feeling that I have to do something.   

And then, when I figure out that I can’t figure it out – I start blaming.

I blame my weight, my job, my skin, my childhood, my marriage (but not my children…never, EVER my children), my financial situation, the government, the Church, aging, my boss, my friends, my lack of a graduate degree…blah, blah, blah.

Then I do something

I go on a diet, join a gym, beef up my resume and repost it on a bunch of job sites, buy a self help book, plan a date night or weekend, stress about the money, rage at the government, go on a shopping spree and buy lots of new potions and lotions for my aging skin and body, enroll in graduate school…(of course before sobriety I used to do all these things AND drink…so I am making some progress).

And what do you think happens each time I do one or all of these things?  Yep – you guessed it!  I quit.  Give it up.  Walk away.  And why, do you ask?  Well because it wasn’t what I really needed or wanted.  It was just a quick fix.  A way to assuage the feelings and maybe make myself feel better.  But it never works.

I used to think of myself as a failure when these things didn’t work.  Old Boxing Bitch would jump in the ring and we’d go a few rounds – usually with me stepping out of the ring bruised, battered and beaten.  But now I know the truth, I’m just a recovering alcoholic still exhibiting alcoholic tendencies.  A 51 year old woman trying to find herself after a lifetime of swimming really hard, against the current, and getting nowhere.

It’s time for me to roll over and float and let the current take me downstream for a change.  Even if it means hitting some rapids or going over a huge waterfall, at least it will be letting go and living on life’s terms and in the direction God intended for my life to flow – not the direction I think my life should flow.  Then maybe I won’t be fighting just to breathe and stay alive and I won’t be so dang tired.  Maybe I’ll just breathe and be alive and live.

And maybe I’ll be a little less restless, irritable and discontent. 

Now – would someone like to tell me how the hell to get that done?


10 thoughts on “Restless, Irritable and Discontent

  1. You're on the right track….it all comes down to understanding and positioning your self into dealing with the things you can change, accepting the things you can not, and having the wisdom to know the difference…I love you!!!

  2. Hey, sorry I mucked up there. Just wanted to say hang in there and go easy on yourself. You rock! Do lovely little girly things to look after yourself (bubble baths, scented candles, treaty magazines…). xxxx

  3. I love how you wrote about having to just do something and then abandoning the effort because it wasn't what you needed at the time anyway. I am really interested in things like this these days: getting just what we need when we need it and not needing what we think we needed or had to have. I wrote that a little awkwardly but you know I'm sayin'?

  4. You are discovering the best reason for can write these thoughts/feelings out as they are happening. You get a little feed back. Even when I have a post that doesn't come across quite right, I find it helpful to get it out of my head!

    Thanks for your kind comment. We all think we know just what other people should do with their children…I have been humbled on that one;)

  5. Sounds like you already intuitively recognise when you are sinking and have a lovely array of antidotes to help yourself though to feeling better without abuse of any sort – so you actually have the solution already – Possibly the only missing part is to accept that it's perfectly natural to go up and down 🙂 without one can we fully appreciate the other?? – thankyou you have helped me today 🙂

  6. I've been sober for a long while now. When I feel restless, irritable and discontent I call my sponsor and know it's time for a little 4th and 5th stepping. We dis-assemble all my stressors and get down to the “ground zero” which is always me and my character defects. Sets me back square one in the program and relieves all those feelings. I rely on the program, it works.

  7. A, We were alcoholic and could not manage our own lives. The word ” were” does not mean past tense. It took many years for me to figure that out. Also I cannot be grateful and feel sorry for myself at the same moment.

  8. 'EXHALE!' Wonderfully written thank you. It's amazing how often I find I'm not really deep breathing. My breaths seem shallow so shallow its just barely enough to stay conscious. So I've master meditation, or at least one aspect we all can do and that's to breath. How sweet it is!

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